Girls will be girls

Let me lay things out for MOST ladies who live in the city and are from suburbia originally. 

It's amazing to have those friends who all come from the same understandings.  The married couples of Chicago [that still live in the city] are fantastic and don't make their single friends feel….well…..singled out.

However, any trip home for those of us who are from suburbs, it leaves the feeling of extreme loneliness, err….okay not the right term, but I hope you can figure out what I'm saying.
The feeling that those people who are married and settled down back in your home town have their shit together.

Here's where I stand though, I tell myself that after the years of living in a city and having plenty of ups and downs with the stress of working, living in the city, paying increasing rents, etc….I now have SO much knowledge of where I stand as an independent woman who provides for herself in a larger city--it makes me feel good.
And as far as the good, bad and ugly when it comes to my dating adventures, I am happy that I have met/dated the men I have in the city because I know that when I meet the right person, I will know.  I've been open, I've learned things about myself, I've learned things about what I won't tolerate…….

I have learned that I have the greatest group of people who I can happily call friends and call them my Chicago family who will be around and will put their two cents in to make sure that when I do find the right things/people in life, it's my best choices.

Us woman have the ups and downs [aka Female Bi-polar….I diagnose this myself…you're welcome!] but without it, we're just stuck in a small bubble and will always wonder.
So…branch out, do something you've never thought you'd like/do/try. Make some new friends. Try a new hairstyle or a bold choice in makeup/lipstick.

Until the next post….xoxo 

Updates, mid20s life crisis?, vanity, and misc...

So I haven't had a post for a while--and after working lots of extra days and hours prior to heading home for Passover, I didn't have much to allow, let alone have time to post a blog.
No news for the dating front, life of a single woman in the city is at a stand still….I'm kind of at that point where half the time I want to throw in the towel and the other half [when you run into a handsome man on the street or in the elevator] it keeps the spark of around.

I have friends who want to set me up--but that scares me--men are….let me rephrase this before going on….SOME [hopefully a small few…yet this group i'm about to describe seem to be more than a handful] men are overly concerned with the fact a woman should have long hair and look certain ways to be attractive to them….
Here's where I think I'm having a vanity issue for myself, I think I'm cute, but recently I just chopped my hair off [which i've done before, as a hairstylist it's a thing we do out of boredom] and even though I'm in love with it, I'm kicking myself also, I'm in a weird in-between, how can someone LOVE a new short do, yet also be really annoyed with them-self for cutting it so short…
 
Here's a bit of honesty for you all--I feel unsexy right now--I feel like with this new cut, I'm not going to be attractive to guys  [WHAT GUYS at this point….there aren't any even on my radar]
It's one of those things where I think I hit a mid 20s life crisis, sounds silly, I know…BUT when the people around you SEEMINGLY have it all [and yes, I know people around may LOOK like they have it all--but they don't….I'm just blabbing right now…venting if you will] 

**random, but how is it ALWAYS…when you've been traveling and feel like crud and look a hot mess from being on a plan and in a cab, you end up on the elevator with a hot guy in your building….NEVER fails!**

A night in with friends this weekend will be a perfect fix for this ''blah-ness'' 

xoxo 

PS: that awkward time a friend comes over and hangs out [ahem…male friend] and things seem very awkward and quiet and uncomfortable-ish, partly because it's been so long since you'd hung out--and that REALLY awkward moment when the friend does little moves like touch your arm and you clearly can tell that they MIGHT like you and you have no means of reciprocating…..Who else has been there?! whewwwwwww…..