Am I old? I had no idea....

Today I got an email in my filtered box and shared in a text with my best friend Wes today....especially because the two of us often laugh at the fact we're still in our late 20s and we don't always know what the new shortened text language means...which then just makes us feel old.

The email came in from a 21 year old, whose photo is a mirror shot of his torso/arm while he most likely is flexing as hard as he can to make every vein and muscle look larger than possible.

Here's the message: Are you interested in NSA/friends with benefits relationship with an athletic 21 year old male?

First let me praise this young man on spelling EVERYTHING correctly because I've had men half his age write emails and have horrendous grammar.

The other thing, which is the part that Wes and I laughed so hard about---I took a good 10-15 minutes trying to figure out what the hell NSA was short for....I figured it out, had a really great laugh.



Ohhhh man, I love the stupid shit that comes in on dating sites, but mostly....i'm sick of going through it.
It's great for giving you all something to laugh about--to read about--and for those who are also single, gives you the knowledge you aren't alone in it, and those who are happily in a partnership--gives you the joy of knowing you aren't in the dating world anymore!

Pictures and emails

I have rejoined a couple of free sites to get more writing [and to see if there's anything new....maybe I'll end up meeting a guy in the process]

Here's where I'm gonna start today, pictures...what the HELL is with posting your profile picture on a dating site of you with 3-5 other guys?! WHICH ONE ARE YOU?! I've come across a few where ALL the photos that were added where of whichever guy actually MADE the profile, and then 4 other buddies of his.
First off, it makes me wonder if you just aren't the ''good looking'' one of the group so you add all your buddies in to confuse the other sex...or you just don't give a shit, and in that case I'm almost ALWAYS going to swipe left [hahahaha].

Another thing....and I've saved some for your entertainment purposes...emails.
Now one site allows me to filter emails set to preferences that I made, and one which came through just made me laugh [editors note* I hate the freaking Pokemon phenomenon.....]

**Not whole messages**

1. 29 year old man "PS. What's your favorite Pokemon" [Ummmm...NONE?!]

2. 36 year old man messaged me the same message TWICE....[this has happened before with other guys....if someone doesn't respond once or twice, you'd move on usually....right?

3. This one I've had from multiple guys and I know for a fact my other single girl friends who've come across this too.... ''You're gorgeous! How are you single??" [Because I am......?]

4. Guys who write you a resume about themselves...like.....literal essay.

5. A guy wrote me multiple times, one day after another, and I should be flattered by one comment...but it's just weird to me [maybe i'm the only one that feels this way about some of this....] ''9 years in the beauty industry, looks like you we're [YES...HE WROTE WE'RE grammar dude...grammar!] born in the beauty industry"
Same guy also wrote later, ''i'm told guys on this site can be very rude and disrespectful towards women. That being said, what I would like to say in a respectful, yet macho way is that I think you are quite pretty and I would surely love the opportunity to learn more about you''

I don't know....am I a bitch for being annoyed or not responding to these guys? Even the guys who are writing a nice email but I'm not attracted to---but then they continue to write even when I've just left the message sit.

Disappointment

After things are going well, there's this whole ''ghosting''

Well, I've been ''ghosted'' and it hurts and it is confusing and it's just not fair.

The guy who I had been seeing, all the sudden up and dropped off the earth [and this is prior to him leaving for Europe for a friends wedding] so it can't be blamed on lack of service/travel.

As much as it sucks, send a message and say ''it's not going to work'' or ''I had a great time but I don't think there was a connection'' ANYTHING that isn't just up and running away so it seems.


That's all my brain can spew out at the moment....


More to hopefully come later.

European vs. American

So took a little hiatus from writing and just was really working on getting life together and working.

The last blog post proved that my luck was intact and even men who are close to 40 years old haven't quite grown up enough to grasp the idea of actually letting the woman know that either they aren't interested or whatnot instead of just ::POOF:: disappearing.

I met someone though. I have been on multiple dates with him. We text even while he's at work and I'm off [usually trying to adult those days…aka laundry, shopping, etc…]

Here's where my European vs. American title comes into play--He's from Milan, has a very heavy italian accent but it's not so much that we can't have real communication.
I am very used to the cheek kisses, ever since my brother lived in France and his friends greeted me that way, and my client June, who lived in Spain for many many years--it's how she greets me every time I see her. I just love it.
First date we met outside a hotel downtown in the city that has a rooftop bar, and I was greeted with the cheek kiss :swoooooooon: and we sat and talked and drank and talked and then decided to grab dinner nearby, and we laughed and talked more, and drank more [boy those Europeans can't drink!] and then decided it was STILL going well that we hit up a little place not far from dinner to listen to live jazz/blues music.
                             Did I mention how much I love live music like that?!

I got home that night around 2 am….

Second date, dinner and chat
Third date, dinner and chat around my neighborhood
Fourth date, met for drinks after work

And then, he wanted to cook for me--but what was so nice was that he asked if he could or we could go for dinner….I opted for cooking dinner since we'd already had so much time out and he's been extremely gentlemanly. We played music, laughed about stupid things [music], drank wine, realized we needed to pickup a few things for the carbonara--walked over to the grocery, laughed far to much in the grocery and then went back and cooked.
                              OH. MY. GOD that was some delicious pasta!

I'm enjoying the time together, and I'm enjoying a man who is respectful…I don't want to generalize all American men because to be honest I know for a fact not all are like the ones I've come across lately, but usually by a third date most guys are insinuating things or trying to jump forward way to fast.

The Italian didn't try to actually kiss me until around the 5th date…

So far, so good. I am just enjoying the time

Until next time! xoxo

Thoughts…lots of thoughts

I was watching an old Sex in the City [thanks Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte] because SO much of those shows and ''inner monologues'' hold true to any woman [and man maybe…].
One in which Carrie was dating one of her many men--and spoke to when things happen with a new person of interest that sometimes we, as women mainly, question EVERYTHING afterward.

I hadn't updated for a bit, but recently had been going out with someone who was SO outside of what I ever said I'd date--but enjoyed every moment that I spent getting to know this guy. We had conversations that, as I explained to a girlfriend, were real adult/intellectual conversations.

WOW what a nice change!! 

Recently, there's been nothing….no talking, no text, no information just Poof nothing. As I told my sister in law, my track record seems intact. 

It sucks.

Dating is rough.

What the hell happened?

Why this, Why that, blah blah blah…..

All of that pops into your head. 

[edit] Thanks to twitter, and posting without expecting a response--Patti Stanger, aka millionaire matchmaker, tweeted back with the response that ''dating other women. NEXT! 

HAHA, love her. And yes, I am moving on.

I feel like meeting people gets harder and harder. I'm not the only person who feels this way--My friend who we will call "C'' has been in the same boat.

Recently, when she went on a date--the guy said things that seemed as though he should have been joking--yet wasn't--even if it were jokingly sometimes those things don't come across that way.

On top of that lousy date for her--she recently had a guy on a dating app who legit made the most HORRIFIC comment [at least to me, C usually has her quick comebacks for people].

"C" has a wheelchair, or she uses her crutches…she's beautiful, quirky and quick-witted, and the things that I know men…MEN [not even boys!] say in a ''getting to know you'' [?] are fucking ridiculous!?! Where the hell is your common sense?!?! Let alone it shows NO dignity, I guess it's more of a way for us to say ''thank you for showing me yourself so I don't have to go through meeting you or dating you''

So, such is life currently…Single….attempting to date [HA!]

Until next time. 

Signing out. 

Does this happen to you?

So I've lagged….I have had all these thoughts in my head of what I wanted to write, and I still have them jumbled up there in my brain, but it took a little while for my to get myself going.

Blog life is almost as rough as dating! Haha, but I love it, and I do it for the entertainment for friends, other single ladies, and well….for my sanity.

So, to begin, the title of this post doesn't make much sense, but stay with me here--it's more of a have you ever felt this way?
Over the years I seem to notice that the guys I've either REALLY liked and it didn't work out, or the guys who just didn't work out from the get go and I wasn't feeling--I seem to have this notion that after a guy has dated me/gone out with me/etc…they end up finding their 'soul mate'  [ugh, yuck, barf hate using the word] or their ''miss right'' [ugh stupid play on ''mr right'' insert intense eye roll now!]

Okay okay, keep reading--I know that it's more likely due to the fact [especially the ones whom which you were really feeling] that you notice those things, but the ones that even on my end, I wasn't feeling.

HEAR YE, HEAR YE, IF YOU WANT A SOLID RELATIONSHIP THAT MIGHT LEAD TO LONG TERM/MARRIAGE DATE ALLY, YOU WILL FIND THE RIGHT GAL AFTER YOU MEET HER.

Is this something that anyone else notices? Is this something that we just see in our own eyes? 
It isn't bad, but if you let it consume you--then you need to take a step back and just look at yourself. I look back at those people who didn't work out--and I'm happy for them, and in turn happy that it went the direction it did.

But damn. It sucks. Especially when one in particular is married….but ladies, we all know that we've said it….''DAMN I LOOK A HELL OF A LOT CUTER THAN HER''

Dating is rough...

I find that as I get older, dating gets harder, isn't that fun!?

I have a career that doesn't quite lend itself to meeting anyone--apart from the one or two men that come in to get their hair done, and even then, they are usually coming in to see me because their girlfriend gets their hair done at our salon.

Going out to bars isn't on my top priority list, and when I do have a night out with girlfriends the pickings at the bar are pretty slim.

So, back to the world of internet dating…and jokingly [yet seriously] letting friends know that if they know someone decent to set me up.

Back to the internet/app dating pools, here's what I find funny: you swipe/like/match with someone and as soon as you attempt communication, they seem to have NO interest in chatting.
Or you get someone interested in having a decent conversation only to have it turn into ''man'' brained conversations [I'll let you figure that one out…it's not hard]

I talked to my brother recently over the phone, and he asked me how dating was going--which I responded with a huge laugh which is the best way I can seem to express my time with dating.  Joking--he said I should let him have reign to write one of my profiles, I am whole heartily OK with that at this point and time--plus I'm going to let him have free reign on the most ridiculous dating site so if it's something I don't agree with, it's at least on a site that I already think is a joke. If not, and it works out [which I have full trust in my brother] then I might just copy and paste it to another.

Yes. I am on more than one, the men do it, why not me? It's all the same people anyway--which also makes me laugh because it seems to lessen the pool even more.


Until next time…..